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The Ugly Truth About Harassment and Discrimination in the Restaurant Industry

 

The Ugly Truth About Harassment and Discrimination in the Restaurant Industry


The restaurant industry has a reputation for being chaotic, fast-paced, and high-pressure. But behind the scenes, beyond the heat of the kitchen and the endless rush of service, there’s something darker that too many people accept as “just the way it is.” Harassment and discrimination aren’t just occasional incidents; they’re woven into the culture of the industry like grease into a chef’s apron. And that’s a problem.

A Silent Epidemic

According to studies from the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) and countless industry surveys, about 40% of restaurant workers experience some form of harassment or discrimination. Think about that. Almost half of the people working in kitchens, bars, and dining rooms have been made to feel powerless, unsafe, or less than human while doing their jobs.

Yet, it’s brushed off. “Toughen up.” “That’s just how it is.” “Welcome to the industry.”

The toxic culture of kitchens thrives on silence. If you speak up, you’re “weak.” If you complain, you’re a problem. If you push back, you might lose your job. So people endure it. They laugh off inappropriate comments, ignore unwanted advances, and swallow the discrimination, hoping that one day, things will change.

The Unspoken Rules

Let’s talk about the unspoken rules that run deep in restaurants.

  • If you’re a woman, expect sexist remarks from both colleagues and customers. If you push back, you’re “difficult.”

  • If you’re from a minority background, expect microaggressions and straight-up racism, disguised as “jokes.”

  • If you’re LGBTQ+, be ready for slurs, side comments, or being told you “don’t belong” in the industry.

  • If you’re new, you’ll probably have to “prove” yourself by tolerating abuse disguised as hazing.

It’s not just customers. It’s the managers, the chefs, the owners, people who should be setting the standard but instead uphold the cycle of abuse.

“That’s Just How It Is” Is a Lie

For years, I was part of this industry. I saw it. I lived it. The shouting, the belittling, the casual discrimination that’s excused because “this is a high-stress environment.” The belief that in order to be respected, you have to endure being broken down first. It’s bullshit.

The restaurant industry prides itself on resilience. Long hours, nonstop pressure, brutal conditions. But real resilience isn’t about taking abuse, it’s about knowing your worth and demanding better.


So What Needs to Change?

  1. Call It Out – If you witness harassment, say something. Silence is complicity.

  2. Management Accountability – Owners and managers need to set the tone. Zero tolerance should mean zero tolerance, not empty policies.

  3. Better Training – Not just on how to cook or serve, but on basic human decency. Harassment prevention should be a standard, not an afterthought.

  4. Empowering Workers – No one should feel trapped in a toxic workplace. Support systems, legal protection, and better industry-wide standards are necessary.

A New Standard

The industry doesn’t have to be this way. The next generation of chefs, servers, and managers has the power to redefine what restaurant culture looks like. It starts with refusing to accept abuse as normal. It starts with conversations like this.

So here’s the real question: Are you willing to be part of the change, or are you just going to keep making excuses?


Thanks for reading,

Gabriello

Creator of The Mindful Chef Movement

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